[a weight loss story]
*kathrynoh at nemesis dot com dot au*
The other day I was in the queue at the supermarket and behind me was a mother with a young child. The kid was screaming and squealing and demanding chocolate in the most painful manner. The mother tried to placated him, but you could tell she was defeated before she even started. She had no conviction in her voice; she was just going through the motions.
I walked away, thinking what a stupid woman. Why didn't she just say no and mean it? Sure the kid would be upset to begin with, maybe stack on a tantrum for the first few supermarket outings but eventually he'd learn that "no" means no and would stop asking for treats. In the long run it would make the mother's life easy, be healthier for the kid and much gentler on the eardrums of other shoppers.
Easy, peasy, lemon squeezy - always is when you are solving other people's problems. But, on the way to the car, it came back to me how trying to change eating habits is like raising a toddler. For me anyway, it's like I have this angry, tantrum throwing, very persistant child inside me that won't take no for an answer. I want it, and I want it now. I scream and demand and throw myself on the ground (mentally anyway - I'm not that far gone).
I can pull all kinds of tricks - avoiding temptation or distracting myself or substituting non-food treats - but in the end, I have to be able to tell myself "no". I have to say it with a firm and uncompromising voice. If I say it often enough and with enough conviction, then the the inner brat will shut up and maybe, eventually, might even start to grow up.
What a great analogy !! We managed to get it right with Kaitlin but I am still working on getting it right with me !!!
You told Her!
I find it hard not to tell people what to do - it is a very bad habit on my part, maybe if I had more tact! I think our inner brats are growing up (a bit later than we would like) - but deep down inside there is always our inner child and brat - we just have to teach them how to behave:)
Yep, absolutely one of the best analogies I've seen lately! I know I can be a spoilt brat sometimes too LOL :-)
that is the most freakin brilliant analogy ever. thankyou! now i know i am dealing with a bratty redhaired stepchild, i know how to handle it...
boobs: 100 cm
waist: 81 cm
hips: 109 cm
thighs: 50 cm
Weekly Goal Lifestyle Changing Challenge-A-Rama
Week 1 - Drink more water
Week 2 - Cut out sugary treats