[a weight loss story]
*kathrynoh at nemesis dot com dot au*
I'm beginning to realise that one of my biggest diet problems is my son, Andrew. Not that he is a problem himself. The problem is the way I related to him. I use him to indulge my worst habits, all in the name of being a good mother.
For example, if we went to a coffee shop, things would be like:
Me: Don't those cakes and slices look good?
Me: Are you going to have one?
Andrew: If you're shouting...
Me: *sigh* I suppose I could get you some lemon slice.
Andrew: Mars bar slice.
Me: I think you'd prefer the lemon slice.
Andrew: No, I want the Mars bar slice. If you want the lemon slice, get it for yourself.
Me:I don't want any slice.
Me: That slice looks like good. I might have to try a little bite.
Andrew: Mum, you've eaten half of it.
It's bad for me. I have to either be willing to admit that I want a treat and work it into my day's food rather than thinking that I'll "just have a bite" or else not have it all. I have to quit thinking that I'm being a nice mother and getting Andrew something nice when really I'm doing it for me.
It's also bad for Andrew. I'm not discouraging him from eating rubbish, instead of being like one of those food pushers that annoy us so much. I'm perpetuating that whole "food is love" myth in his life. I'm teaching him that bad food is fun and healthy food isn't.
When I do these things, I'm not being a good mother, I'm being a bad mother. From now on, when I shout, I'll be shouting bags of plums and nectarines at the market; I'll be encouraging any kind of fresh vegetable I can get him to eat; I'll be sharing recipes for healthier food. In the long run, we'll both be better off for it.
Oh don't we all know about that conversation LOL!! I usually try to encourage Jamie to have something naughty that I feel like just so I can share. If I share I don't feel as guilty about having it. Funny how we manipulate our outlook on things to make us feel better. BTW I like the new look blog. Very stylish! XX
I think it's great that you are now aware that you are teaching him that food=love. I wish my family would have realized that when I was young. To this day, if something positive happens, the first thing I think of is "Yea! Let's go out to eat!"
i do the same with my boyfriend....i forget about the health benefits for him (he eats way too much chocolate) i guess the beautiful thing about these blogs is not only r we encouraging ourselfs for a better lifestyle we r encouraging others....no we just gotta move it on to the ones we love...by the way thanks for the narnia warning, when i see it hopefully i wont be too dissapointed....ps, maccas is just evil! keep up the good work
Don't beat yourself up too much; a lot of women would not have even realized they were doing that and never would have wanted to change it. I tend to use my husband in the same way; I plant the seed of pie or chinese food in his head then act like he forced ME to eat that stuff. It is a sickness, I tell ya!
Yep, I do it too, why is that? It's annoying for us and whoever we're coercing into eating!!
slice is good though!!!!
I know a mum who refuses to sell her kids school's fundraiser choccies. She takes them back, has a go at them, and then offers a donation instead. Quite funny.
do'nt be so hard on yourself, you're doing what so many mothers do and it doesn't make you a bad mother at all. I do the same thing but with my fiance, i'll ring him and say "feel like fish and chips" and he's say, "yeah!!!" and if he'd said no, i would go home and eat healthy. But i ask him knowing that he'll say yes. it's terrible the things we do for love and food ;)
I've always had a food=emotion issue. Its great that you are taking the stand and changing all that now. Well done! It takes a lot to admit to yourself that food doesn't equal happiness. (just don't read my blog coz i just admited to doing the same thing last night) hehe
OMG I DO THIS - but in a different way. I don't even trick myself into thinking just a bite.
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waist: 81 cm
hips: 109 cm
thighs: 50 cm
Weekly Goal Lifestyle Changing Challenge-A-Rama
Week 1 - Drink more water
Week 2 - Cut out sugary treats